I Did It For My (Future) Children

What motivates you? What reason do you have to work hard or to change yourself?

Based on the lens through which we each see the world, we will each have our own motivations. Some of these may be similar between people, while others motivations may be radically different.

Regardless, if you feel the need or desire to change, you must have a reason to do so.

Your change may not have anything to do with your health – maybe it’s a career decision, or a financial decision. All of the choices that we make have a motivation. If that motivation is strong enough, then change is enabled and is more likely to occur.

My motivation towards the positive change in my health was deeply rooted in the idea that I never wanted my (future) children to go through the health challenges that I had to deal with. It is my deepest desire that my kids will be given the absolute best chance to succeed in their lives (as all parents want). I want to ensure that they get off on the right foot, in terms of their biochemical development.

The only thing that we can truly control in our lives are the actions that we take. Our actions are based on our circumstances, and deciding that we are either willing to continue living in those circumstances, or that we are not willing to remain on our current trajectory. Beyond our decisions and actions, the world is largely outside of our control.

What has made me successful in my transformation was the fact that my decision to change was rooted in the deep desire to give my kids a leg up so that, ideally they will never have to deal with preventable health challenges. I was unhappy with my current circumstance and my trajectory and so the decision was made to change it.

All of my actions during the active phase of my transformation were made with this motivation as their root.

In my opinion, it doesn’t matter whether you are intrinsically or extrinsically motivated. If you know that the circumstance you are currently in, is ultimately not where you want to be, then it is time to change. This is where clarity on your ultimate goals comes in to play.

I am absolutely clear on what I want for my children in terms of their health. I know that making this change before I even have children will give me the greatest opportunity to pass this message along to them and ideally for generations to come. I decided to be proactive and make this happen before it was too late.

One of my favourite quotes by Warren Buffett is “The chains of habit are too light to be felt, until they are too heavy to be broken.” What this means to me is that we are aware of the habits that we have – the choices that we make, and yet we simply choose not to do anything about it until it is finally too late. We are blind to it, until we finally get a wake-up call, one that is generally quite rude.

Case in point – We all know someone (or many people) who has a horrible diet, makes terrible food and lifestyle decisions and is absolutely not willing to accept that the issues exist, until it is too late – they suffer a major health event – Heart Disease, Cancer, Stroke, Autoimmune Disease. Once they are diagnosed, the chance of complete recovery is significantly lower than if they had acted proactively – they are placed on a myriad of medications to manage their symptoms and become yet another statistic.

How long are you willing to wait before you make the changes you know you need to make?

Are you willing to wait until it’s too late?

Many of my past decisions were REACTIVE decisions. They placed me into a certain circumstance which I did not fully accept. Then something changed – the AH-HA moments.

The day I stepped on the scale and saw the number 250. The day a close family member younger than me, was diagnosed with a largely PREVENTABLE CHRONIC DISEASE in his 20’s, I knew something needed to change. When my 40-something year-old uncle who I look up to immensely was hospitalized in need of a QUADRUPLE BYPASS – In his 40’s!

The chains used to be too light to be felt. Then I accepted that I had put myself on a trajectory to have to deal with health challenges… and yet it was early enough to change that trajectory – that is was truly possible to break the chains of habit, once I finally accepted that they existed. I was digging my own grave, but there was still time to climb out.

I decided that my kids will not go through the crap that I have gone through.

I did it for my (future) kids.

What motivates you?